We grow fearless by walking into our fears.
You don’t let fear take over if you have strong enough reasons.
We all have to learn how to walk a fine line between fear and fearlessness, adopting just enough of the former to keep us alert to dangers, and enough of the latter to be able to meet our commitments and follow the principles that must be considered greater than any fear we may have.
Being Fearless isn’t being 100% not Fearful, it’s being terrified but you jump anyway.
Some fears are good, they are essential for survival. For instance, the fear of accosting a wild beast, the fear of fire or of jumping off heights. Or to step onto a busy road with one’s eye shut.
But then there are some fears that are bad for us- the kinds that lead us to avoid issues or people, withdrawing from life, lying, becoming defensive or aggressive. A lot of our fears arise from our refusal to examine or face a situation, backing off from it prematurely. We withdraw in fear because we believe ourselves incapable, unsure of the outcome or afraid that results in devastation.
But fearlessness is a very critical quality in order to live life fully. You need to be fearless to live with an open heart and an open mind; you need to be fearless if you hope to stay true to yourself. Honesty requires a firm foundation of fearlessness, where you will speak the truth in the face of any opposition or danger. To trust someone requires you to be courageous too, for you are putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. To open yourself and to love someone are the greatest forms of fearlessness.
F-E-A-R has two meanings: Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise. The choice is yours.
Fearlessness doesn’t mean a lack of fear. It means that you are able to conquer that fear and rise above it. By fearing something or someone, you are granting them a more exalted status. By being fearless, you are overpowering fear itself.
So, how then can we distinguish between the right kind of fearlessness and the wrong kind? If we are true to ourselves and have taken time to understand and listen to our feelings, we will instinctively understand what true fearlessness is. To not do wrong but also to not allow others to do it is the sign of a fearless person.
My trick to being the right kind of fearless is to not budge, come what may, on some basic principles that you must lay down for yourself such as honesty, kindness, and justice. And then when confronted with any situation that arouses fear in you, think of the worst that could happen if you give in to your fear. And then, think of the best that can happen if you do not give in to that fear. And instantly, your path will be crystal clear.
The question to be answered is not just what you would do if you were not afraid; you have to figure whether the end result achieved by accosting the fear is worth the trouble? Or, is it just a whim and an act of dare-devilry which will lead nowhere? Will it benefit others and will you emerge a better person or not? If so it is well worth it.